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For the last year, we’ve been gripped by a global pandemic. Figures in the UK currently stand at more than 2 and half million confirmed cases and 75,000 deaths. Despite having endured two previous national lockdowns and the shifting goalposts of localised restrictions updated almost weekly, we’re now entering a third national lockdown with no end in sight. Some of us have been held hostage to fear of the virus, many have lost friends and loved ones, but all of us have suffered severe disruption to our lives and plans.

On this episode I interview Chukwudi Ugbomah and we talk about what it was like trying to plan a wedding during a lockdown and crossing the threshold into marriage.

Chukwudi and his then fiancé did not live together prior to getting married, and so had to practice social distancing for much of the first half of 2020 and the period leading up to their wedding. The transition from bachelor to husband was a particularly profound, and so we discuss what that journey has been like for him.

Chukwudi was one of the very first men I interviewed back in season 1 of the podcast where we talked about his preparations for marriage. You can listen to it here: Ep. #2 – Legacy, Money and Managing Conflict. Back then, reports of the Coronavirus had only just begun to emerge out of Wuhan, China and we couldn’t have imagined just how much our lives would have been affected by it in just a few short weeks afterwards.

While for many of us, it may seem as though our lives remain in a state of perpetual limbo, Chukwudi’s story encourages me to believe we can still hope for new beginnings and I hope it does the same for you too.

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We recorded this episode a couple weeks into the lockdown as a somewhat unplanned and off-the-cuff conversation. The intention was to talk about a different subject entirely but I wasn’t feeling particularly great and I knew a few of the guys felt similarly. 

Daniel Doyley, one of the guests on this episode and the voice you hear in the intro had recently lost his grandmother to what was suspected to be COVID-19. They were extremely close and she had a significant impact on his life. The loss of a loved one, the physical separation between himself and his family and financial concerns weighed heavily on him.

Isaac Fletcher is an extremely social guy but made the decision to be extra disciplined about committing to the lockdown and social distancing as he lives with his mother who has several pre-existing health conditions. As a result of these conditions, she is categorised as being at the highest risk and he didn’t want to take any chances with her health. 

Raymond and Daniel Raeburn, the other contributors on this episode, were coping well for the most part but still found some aspects of the lockdown challenging.

And myself? Well, I have no issues saying I was struggling. I was struggling with trying to remain productive in my role despite working from home, being a full-time parent to a toddler and being acutely aware of the slowdown at work. As someone who in the past struggled with low mood, I felt some of that creeping back in, so instead of carrying on with our planned topic we just talked to each other instead. 

Sometimes that’s all you need, to talk to someone. 

It’s Mental Health Week here in the UK and as well as the obvious global health concerns we face, we also need to recognise the emotional difficulties each of us are tackling as a result. So if you’re feeling low, reach out to someone. If you’re concerned about your mental health or are struggling to cope emotionally, please contact your GP.

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