Paternal: the beginning of the end

This is the second episode of a 3-part series titled, ‘Paternal’. It is honest, funny and heartfelt. If you haven’t listened to part 1, In the Beginning, then I’d recommend you click the link to do so now. When I was 9 years old, I had a teacher called Miss Bryant. In class one day,…

Paternal: in the beginning

My parents split up when I was about 10 years old. The last eighteen months of their relationship was, as I perceived it, a traumatic, disruptive and chaotic mess. In the years that followed, my relationship with my father broke down. There were many reasons for this, but it mainly boiled down to the fact…

Have We Got Beef?

We are relational human beings, and as such we often encounter conflict in our relationships. Conflict is normal, its common, but it’s not necessarily a harbinger of doom. Conflict within positive relationships between men can instil respect of each others’ differences and jovial provocation. But sometimes, conflict can result in the breakdown of relationships or lead…

More Than My Skin

When I started the Podcast, I said I wanted to reveal the inner lives of men and that while many of the men featured on the show would be black men, we wanted the stories told to resonate with all men. With the current socio-political landscape in the wake of the high-profile killings of Ahmaud…

Black Men In White Spaces

We’re in the middle of a global conversation on racism and its insidious nature. I felt moved enough to present my stories and experiences of racism on a company-wide call along with 4 of my black colleagues. Recounting my experiences and listening to my colleagues share their own was, quite frankly, traumatising and left me…

Blackish

The population of Jamaica is about 97% black, but it wasn’t until 1968 when Karlene Waddell, became the first black woman to win the Miss Jamaica title. Many of the black winners since have features that many could describe as more Eurocentric or less African in appearance. As an English-speaking, majority Afro-descent society, skin tone…

Hashtag Titty Tuesday

In 2018, a team of Australian and Danish psychologists recruited over 300 heterosexual men to analyse their porn viewing habits. They found that 94% of the men surveyed had viewed pornography in the last six months, 82% identified as regular viewers of pornography and the average frequency of their porn viewing was 3 to 4…

My Dad Is Stronger Than Yours

Dads play a pivotal role in our lives. Children learn how to temper their emotions and physicality through rough play with dad, and they learn how to form secure and healthy relationships through the influence of their dads. Children often idealise their dads, but as we get older, we realise their fallibility and their humanity….

I Can’t Breathe

I’m angry. I’m hurt. But mostly, I’m tired. I’m tired of the platitudes, the calls for peace and unity. I’m tired of the thoughts and prayers at times like these. I’m tired of watching and reading about another black person murdered in their home, in their car, at the grocery store, in the park… just…

Pandemic

We recorded this episode a couple weeks into the lockdown as a somewhat unplanned and off-the-cuff conversation. The intention was to talk about a different subject entirely but I wasn’t feeling particularly great and I knew a few of the guys felt similarly.  Daniel Doyley, one of the guests on this episode and the voice you…